“What would Nicolosi say?” we’d ask. It became a regular refrain, an acknowledgment that we were misbehaving. Part of the bond we developed was in our shared rebellion against our therapist. For me, it had less to do with opposing ex-gay therapy than with the giddy thrill of defying authority. Ryan was convinced that change was impossible—“Nicolosi’s a quack,” he once said. Despite my transgressions, I still believed in Nicolosi’s theory. But my relationship with Ryan evinced a larger problem: While I was uncovering how my relationship with my parents continued to shape my inner life, I was still attracted to men. I chatted with older guys on the Internet and on a few occasions met them.
Every gay man I know carries around a mental portfolio of all the shitty things other gay men have said and done to him. I arrived to a date once and the guy immediately stood up, said I was shorter than I looked in my pictures and left. Alex, a fitness instructor in Seattle, was told by a guy on his swim team, “I’ll ignore your face if you fuck me without a condom.” Martin, a Brit living in Portland, has gained maybe 10 pounds since he moved there and got a Grindr message— on Christmas Day —that said: “You used to be so sexy. It’s a shame you messed it up.”
My assumption is that the priest as my confessor was trying to tell me if we don’t believe that the church will overcome these evils then we don’t believe the words of our Lord found in that particular passage and if we don’t believe our Lord’s words in scripture we really don’t have the fullness of faith. I am praying for the pope and the church. However, I am a person that needs to be proactive and sometimes prayer is not enough for me and this is where I can get myself in trouble . The priest ( our parish pastor) was generous in saying I was a good catholic because of my concern and that I should never be afraid of upholding the truth. Let us pray and let us not fear the enemy but be as courageous as ever in speaking the truth especially with respect to the very grave evils that some are trying to “normalize”. Satan is alway at work and this is just a test. If the laity collectively would display the courage needed to support this important doctrine it would send a message to pastors and bishops. Perhaps then it would gain even a small mention in a homily….that in my opinion would be a good start. Lets see what happens given the what has played out in this synod. Pax CHristi.